Boyfriend loses 15K of joint savings to a scam trading group and invests breadwinner girlfriend's remaining 10k into a different scam, woman considers leaving him: ‘

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Nov 10, 2024 10:00 PM EST

Ladies, there's nothing wrong with being the breadwinner in your romantic relationship. Times are changing, and it's significantly important to have our own financial cushions and to not rely on our partners for money. It's nice to be able to treat our partners with gifta, fancy dinners, and help them out when they're in a rough spot. What's not okay is letting our partners do what they please with out finances, especially if we ask them to be responsible with our cash. At the end of the day, cash is king, and though money comes and goes, the principle of the situation is more important than a monetary loss.

The woman in this story is considering leaving her boyfriend after he invested their joint savings (which she contributed to the most) into a scam trading group. She signed off on it at first, but then they lost 15K of the 25K they had put into it. With 10K remaining, she begged him to keep it safe and be vigilant about other scams. Instead of doing what she asked, he goes behind her back and loses the remaining funds. This is how she's repaid for years of fronting most of the cost for vacations, dinners, and housing. Scroll to read.

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    "I told him to keep the money as a nest egg and asked him not to trade it."
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    AITA for wanting to dump my boyfriend after he lost my savings in a scam?
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    Im currently trying to decide on if I should end the relationship or if it's even reconcilable. I'm going to try to condense this.
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    Boyfriend and I moved across the country for my job, he works remote. I am the breadwinner making 4x as much as him. He has been living at home his life and has never paid bills before. aside from credit cards.
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    When we arrived to our new home, he was in a trading group and seeing great returns. He convinced me it would be a good idea for me to invest my money too—so I
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    did, and I fully accept the consequences of that. Turns out that the group was a scam, between the money we pooled together we were only able to withdraw 10k of
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    the 25k we invested (me 15k and him 10k) since I'm the higher earner, I told him to keep the 10k and i would work hard to recoup my loss since it's easier for me to do so. I
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    told him to keep the money as a nest egg and asked him not to trade it Fast forward a few months. I've recovered. I take us on a nice vacation. I pay for most of
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    it-no problem since I make way more. We come home from said vacation and I begin looking at homes to purchase so we can start our life together. I ask him
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    if he can contribute a portion of the 10k towards a down payment for our house-he informs me that he attempted to trade the money to make back our loss and lost it
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    all, he never even told me about it or came to me before he did it He has an expensive knife collection back home and worth noting that half of his paychecks go to
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    paying off his debts so he can't contribute that much to bills. He won't sell off the collection to put himself ahead in life.
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    AITA for dumping my bf for being poor with his money and making bad decisions?
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    ed_lv 21h ago • • NTA You should've dumped him a while ago. He's not someone you can plan on being there financially and he'll be dragging you down your entire life.
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    GrumpyLump91 • 21h ago NTA. He's an idiot. That's why you should dump him up. He's just going to be a financial anchor for you.
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    peterfortune92 • 21h ago • NTA. You got scammed just like he did, so that's a wash. He did it again without consulting you. That's not a good partner.
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    Aynaking 21h ago NTA one time is okish, but the other 10k that's a pattern. He's an idiot.
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    Spoedi-Probes . 21h ago. NTA If he doesn't understand, that you never chase your losses. He will forever try to gamble/ trade his way to wealth. Unless his name is Buffett it won't work. Dump him.
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    • fairylaceflutter 13h ago. Your feelings of wanting to reevaluate the relationship are completely valid, especially if you don't feel supported or confident in his ability to manage finances responsibly. It's okay to expect
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    accountability and stability in a relationship, especially when it comes to finances, and it's important to set boundaries for your own well-being.
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    13ex_G 21h ago Nta he isn't a partner, you need to stop supporting him. He betrayed your trust and lied by omission. He isn't will to sacrifice to put you and him in a better place, while it seems you continue to sacrifice for your relationship.
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